by serge urtizberea » Tue Mar 06, 2001 10:33 pm
Hornplayer, BenG, you guys scare me.<P>I cannot tell how facetious your posts were--I guessing not very, since they were clearly thought-out and emotional--but there is definitely a lot of anger. While I empathize with a lot of what you're saying, these are the first posts I've read that actually troubled me.<P>Yes, pop and rap and r&b and their derivatives are not "good" music by our definition. There is increasing realization of the emptiness of the music even by those in the industry. I've 'observed' the situation here before, and while I think p.m. is not intelligent, it is not entirely worthy of such hateful thoughts. Please use restraint when I describe my thoughts here, as surely you must detest my ambivalence towards the issue.<P>The world today is far different than what it was half a century ago. The things you complain so bitterly about only truly developed over the past twenty years or so, as far as I'm concerned. The oversexification of the media, the obsession with glamor, money, style, etc. is a very obtrusive and evident thing. I dislike watching Entertainment Tonight as the next person, but I do not think our culture is as worthless as either of you do. Our culture, as all of human history has done, rewards the successful. That is the simple truth. It's the only reason people bother to strive for something, if you think about it. If there is no reward (money, fame, accomplishment...) at the end of it all, why would you bother?<BR>The desire to look nice, to have friends, to have sex, all that is clearly part of the lifestyle of the average teen. At the most formative and impressive age of their lives, these people want to fit in and examine their lives. They need things that will bond people: music, sex, 'extracurricular activities' like your despised pot and alcohol, etc. This is called socialization, and it is CRUCIAL to people in high school. Kids who aren't socialized are the kids who go shooting up high schools over and over and OVER. No matter what you want to say about the cancerous state of pop culture, the point remains that without part or all of it, teens would not respond like social people when they get older. If it takes Ricky Martin, MTV, 4:20s, protected sex, and clothes to allow kids to bond with others and relate to the world, so be it. Much better than the alternative, which is people who don't bother to find common interests, interact with others, develop relationships, and end up raping women, robbing stores, and shooting innocent people while they go about their lives loathing themselves.<P>Does it really matter if kids today like pop music? No. These kids are not going to grow up listening to their Christina Aguilera CDs when they're working every day and raising families. There are millions of teens out there right now who are smart, physically active, happy, sexy, and 'normalized' who do everything you guys complain about, including voting Democratic. The problems of society belong with those who don't try to relate to the world. Drug addicts, rapists, murderers... you think they were caused by popular culture? Hell no. They are the misfits of society, the people who could not look at popular culture or the world and enjoy it understanding that just because a celebrity is rich that THEY were not automatically excluded from that possibility, or that it even mattered to their lives whether a celebrity earned their status or not. These misfits did not know or bother to understand that as long as they could earn a decent paycheck, they could lead happy lives. There is no productive result to ranting about the star status of certain people. Go to class tomorrow and ask any of your peers if they think they will become the next Britney. Then ask if they care.<P>And BenG, your problem with the obsession of youth culture is understandable, but the truth is simpler still. Today's youth are tomorrow's consumers. They are the ones who dictate what will sell in ten years. They are the ones with disposable incomes, with the sense of what's cool or not. Why? Because a teenager's years are supposed to be the fun years and because when you're older, you don't have the time or energy to bother with what's cool. Older people work. They buy homes, cars, make dinner, raise kids, invest money, read newspapers.. Mundane activities like these are the realm of a mature, responsible world. If you want kids to act like this, when are they supposed to enjoy themselves the way they should if they are going to be properly socialized? When are the halcyon days in this situation?<P>Pissed off about image? Wondering why the media don't put unattractive people in front of the public? Because humans have a built-in desire for attractiveness. It demonstrates good genes, healthy bodies. This has been shown to be the case by behavioral scientists and biologists, and it has been demonstrated in cultures very different from ours. It's another facet of the whole "successful" thing I was talking about earlier. Mediocrity leads to failure and obliteration. Seeing sexy people encourages young people to emulate them and be as attractive as they can be. I'm sorry, but there is nothing wrong with that. It is something that continues for the duration of one's life, from the toothpaste used to brush plaque and bad breath away to the shampoo used to give hair a nice shine and smell to the clothes one chooses to wear. <P>Too much sex seen in the media? Maybe, but it serves many functions: it teaches people who don't get the birds-and-bees chat what sex is, shows what is considered sexy--and therefore attractive to others, and sells product. If you think seeing too much sex on tv has made sex 'boring', you need a better imagination, a better sex partner, or simply more sex. Boring to watch? Maybe. Boring to do? Uhh, no.<P>Pop music, which is just one of many parts that comprise pop culture, can be chalked up to a simple desire by the target population to socialize. There is no inherent intelligence to most pop, but its sociological importance is high. How many parties have you ever been to that don't play music? How many clubs or bars have you went to? How many movies have you enjoyed with p.m. on the soundtrack? Music engages people. It brings them together. It hardly creates anyone in its own image, though, unless they are incredibly suggestible. <P>I don't listen to much pop music at all, but I understand and appreciate its importance nonetheless as a cultural normalizer. The rants of the two of you give me impression that you aren't well-engaged with your peers, especially you, hp. It is a shame that you can't budge a bit on this issue and ty to enjoy p.m. and p. culture if only for the sake of meeting new people or engaging your immediate world. Depression is a bad thing; I've gone through it myself, and I know that it can't be dealt with alone. I hope you can seek help with it, hp. Your depression colored everything you wrote about, including your misinformed and ignorant take on Democrats. It may even prevent you from studying your Fr. horn properly, since you talk beleagueredly about your incapacity to play. Of course, I'm a faceless person to you, and I don't wish to meddle. I'm just positing here as a sympathizer. <P>If you hate the popular culture, avoid it. Read science and gardening magazines, take up woodworking, build model cars, write stories, express yourself creatively, hike, take horseback lessons, watch Discovery Channel, do anything that doesn't involve pop culture. You can avoid most of what pisses you off, and ignore the rest. Griping about the world is a lot less productive and healthy than focusing on what you do like. C'mon, guys, lighten up a little.<P><BR>