Some personal background on why Brahms probably never married:<P>He was obsessed with his mother, crying out over her grave (aged 32), "I no longer have a mother! I must marry!" He loved respectable women from a distance, but only slept with prostitutes, to whom he was always courteous. Ultimately, he valued bachelorhood too much - he had at least seven major, unconsummated relationships, but always bolted before the wedding vows. He probably did want to marry the strong mother figure (she had 7 children) of Clara Schumann, but an affair was out of the question since she was married to his mentally-institutionalised good friend, Robert. After Robert died, the passion between Brahms & Clara cooled, but they remained good friends, & Brahms seldom published his music without her approval.