by Schmeelkie » Thu Aug 30, 2007 12:13 pm
I'm with you Dai - but then, I actually just work 6 hrs/day, 4 days/week.
After getting my PhD, my husband and I decided that since in his field, he pretty much had to get a tenure-track job to stay in academia, and I had more options, in fact was expected to get more research experience before going tenure-track, I'd follow him whereever he got a job. So, first it was two year in Michigan - he at an adjunct position at Wayne State U, me in a study coordinator/data management position at U Michigan, Ann Arbor. That job for me was lucky - just the kind of work I wanted to be doing. 40 hours and that's all I did. When the clock hit 5, I was out the door. Then, since his job wasn't likely to become tenure-track, he went back on the job market and got his current position at SUNY Brockport and actually goes up for tenure this year. I started looking for a job here in Rochester, got pregnant and by 7 months, stopped looking for a while. After having Pumpkin, I waited about 3 months then started looking again. This time I focused on part-time as I knew I didn't want to jump back in at full force and wanted to more available for my family. When I interviewed for my current position, I was asked by one person, 'do you know you're grossly overqualified for this position?' I explained where I was at and that, yes someday I want to be doing my own research, but for now I just wanted to get my foot in the door and keep my brain active.
Anyway, I'm very happy where I'm at now. Always have 3 day weekends - so can get errands out of the way on Friday and still have the weekend for fun. My house is a mess and projects take forever to get done, but I have the joy of entering Pumpkin's imaginative worlds and letting Bella crawl all over me. If they're both occupied - either playing by themselves or Daddy, I'll pay the bills, wash dishes, fold clothes, but they know that I'm always available when I'm home and that's the way I want it. The people at work know that if there's a dire emergency, they can call, but hardly ever do. Usually whatever it is can wait until Monday.
My husband has the 'easy' job of being a professor - classes only 3 days a week, summers off - tons of free time right? And I get, 'why doesn't he keep the kids home on those days he's not teaching or over the summer'. Yeah, just cause you're not teaching doesn't mean you're sitting around doing nothing. He uses the summer and those two days 'off' to write papers, do committee work (which he bitches endlessly about), grade and prepare for classes. He generally works for a couple of hours in the evenings, but will help if I get overwhelmed, and works for several hours on weekends in 1-2 hour chunks when I'm not nursing Bella. But he can take a day and have fun and is much more flexible with his time. During the school year there will be weeks where he probably puts in 60 hours and other weeks where it's more like 30. The flexibility has totally helped since we had Bella. And Pumpkin is getting independent enough to play by himself for 30-60 min, get a drink or a snack and go potty with out disturbing us (maybe a question - can I eat X?). Which is great for everyone, but he does enjoy his Daddy-time (only he can read the Hobbit) and probably gets more than the average kid.
Oops - should get back to work - I've run over my lunch a bit...
"Up plus down equals flat" Pumpkin, 3 yrs, 10 mo, July '07